Whatever …. (In the words of Duane from Full House)

 Duane

          Growing up I was a fan of Full House. It was one of my favorite shows at the time. I was so excited and nervous when they brought it back. I wanted to relive my childhood, but I was scared that they would ruin a classic. After watching the first season of Fuller House I thoroughly enjoyed it. It made me think a lot about life, like how up and down it can be. It really is a roller coaster with unexpected twists and turns. There are highs and lows, and that’s what makes it exciting and scary at the same time. There’s one character on the show named Duane. He dated Kimmy for a while during the original series, and then made one small cameo in the newer series. He was a character most people laughed at because all he ever said was “Whatever” and that was his answer to everything. He just went with the flow. Nothing bothered him. One episode he surprised us when he recited a poem, but shortly after that he was back to saying his catch phrase. Now that I am older I wish I could be more like Duane. What if I stopped worrying so much? What if my reply to everything was whatever? Sometimes I get so worked up and caught up in my own thoughts that it feels like I’m driving myself crazy. So instead of getting emotional or being filled with self-doubt and wondering why certain things are happening I can just say “Whatever.”

          I know it’s easier said than done, and it also doesn’t apply to every situation. Obviously, you wouldn’t say whatever about a love one being really sick and battling an illness, or even a group assignment for work or school when you know everyone is depending on you. There are a few scenarios where “whatever” is not the answer, but in other cases it could be. You didn’t get that job? Whatever. That girl Ashley from school/work doesn’t like you for no reason. Whatever. You’re not your crush’s type. Whatever.  You constantly feel left out? Whatever. You don’t have the newest gadget that everyone else has? Whatever. We need to stop looking for validation through people. We give people and things too much power over us and our emotions. The older you get the more you start to notice what’s really important. Just because you didn’t get that job doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It just means that maybe that job was not for you. Maybe a better one will come along that’s perfect for you. If someone doesn’t like you for no genuine reason, then who cares. It’s their problem not yours. Your crush doesn’t like you back in that way, then shake it off and move on. Don’t start to think that there’s something wrong with you, because there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s their lost! You will find someone better. If there are people who you feel are close to you constantly exclude you then consider it a blessing, because maybe they aren’t as much of a friend that you think they are. I don’t know about you, but I rather know the truth then have someone fake or a snake right next to me. If You don’t have the means to get a certain gadget that everyone has then you’re caught up on the wrong things. Your possessions do not define you and they’re not what’s truly important. If you really want it that bad work harder and when you do get what you want the feeling would be even sweeter because you earned it. We have to start looking at things differently. We must block out the unnecessary stressors that we put on ourselves.

          I challenge you to take a page out of Duane’s book this year and say WHATEVER! Brush off the foolishness and try not to let it have power over you. You can’t control what people think or how they feel. Let’s be more open to letting the toxic waste out of our life and be open for the new things.  Sometimes things can be blessings in disguise. We can be put in certain situations just so the toxic people can get out of our lives and make room for new genuine people. Someone might have passed on you for a job that you thought you could’ve been content with because a job that you would love is about to open up and it will seem like it was created for you. If you take away anything from this post remember that there’s always a silver lining, and not to stress over things that you don’t have any control over. You only have one life, so let’s all be like Duane from Full House for a moment and say . . . .  Whatever.


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