Finding Yourself vs Creating Yourself

Years ago, when I was in college, I remember seeing a poster that said “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” I think it was a quote by George Bernard Shaw. It made me think because I used to always say “I have to find myself. I have to find who I am.” When in reality you don’t find yourself. You go through life experiences and each experience makes you who you are. So it’s like you create yourself along the way, throughout your journey. Our Path shapes and molds us into who we have become and who we will become. From friendships, relationships, losses, gains, schools, programs, religion, hometowns or even where we live now, all of that plays a role into who we are. If I didn’t experience some of the things that I’ve experienced I wouldn’t have known what I was capable of and I would be somewhat of a different person today.

Our decisions today determine our tomorrow. We don’t always know what choice is right for us or who we should let in our lives. We just have to make educated guesses and hope for the best. There are some things that we cannot control. Things just happen sometimes, but there are somethings that we can control. If there are certain characteristics and abilities that we want to possess we know what we need to do to attain them. If we want to be better at public speaking, then we need to take a class in public speaking or communications. Or you can join an organization and aim for a role that requires speaking to an audience. If you want to be a great cook and someday plan to start a catering business. Take a class and start off small working in a kitchen (at a hotel maybe). Get some recipe books, watch some YouTube videos and practice in your own home. Experiment and have fun with it. This is how you help create that part of yourself that you want to see. This is what you can control. Forget about finding yourself and go there and start creating! 😉


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