Have you ever wondered about the timing of things? When things don’t work out, we hear people say well maybe it just wasn’t the right time, or maybe it was somebody else’s time. I always here the phrase “Timing is Everything!” and I understand it. I know if I wanted certain things to happen when I first wanted them to, I would have probably spent the majority of my money on junk and items that I don’t need all because I was so fascinated by labels. I’ve changed a lot over the years. The things that interest me years ago don’t really interest me anymore. I see the world differently and I appreciate the little things. I used to sit back and wonder why it wasn’t my time to win. Why weren’t I getting any job offers? Why weren’t any of my projects succeeding, and if one started to gain any kind of traction it would quickly dial down. I would wonder how many L’s I would have to take before I would finally gain a W. It started to feel like maybe other people were just lucky, or maybe I just didn’t have IT. Like maybe the people who succeed are born with a type of greatness that I didn’t acquire at birth. I remember re-watching The Secret a couple years ago and feeling inspired. In 2019 I wrote a letter to the new successful me and I sealed it up and wrote “Open in 2020” on it. Needless to say, that I didn’t accomplish anything in that letter a year later. It was so devastating, and I tried to tell myself well I will just give myself to the end of 2020, but I had no idea what we were in for last year. Next month it will be 2 years since I wrote the letter. Maybe it was premature to think that so much could happen in a year, or maybe I got in my own way.
In a previous blog I mentioned how 2020 was indeed the year of vision. A lot of things came to light (besides people’s true character). I feel like I gained a lot of insight on what it really takes to get to where you want to be. I did the most research last year and seeing everyone’s journey was inspiring. I wasn’t mentally prepared to reach my goals years ago. I didn’t have the right mindset or the drive. I thought I did, but I was mistaken. If I did the same things in 2018 that I did in 2020 I would be A LOT Further by now. Knowledge is Power! Consistency is Power! Self-Discipline is Power! Sometimes we think we are giving our ALL until we see what giving your ALL really looks like. So many of us give up in the process, because it feels too hard. It ended up being way harder than we thought so we try to find shortcuts and ways to get noticed and when that doesn’t work, we fold. We spend hours on something that we feel is amazing, and we get so excited to release it to the world. Once we release it and it flops, we get a little more discouraged because we want instant results. Instead, we lose a little bit of our drive with every failure. It’s like being in a relationship and giving so much of yourself and the other person could care less. After awhile you just feel like quitting, because you feel like the world doesn’t value your work. We don’t want to feel like we’re wasting our time, so we just stop. We temporarily or permanently move on from it.
It’s easier to think the world is not ready for you, when in fact it’s just you’re not ready for the world. Our failures shape and mold us into winners. If it was easy everyone would be living out their dreams. The challenges and the obstacles weed out the ones who are serious and determined. It’s like someone saying they want to lose weight, but not doing what it takes to achieve it. We might say it, and we may desire it, but we don’t want it enough to put the hard work and self-discipline in. It’s the same recipe for success.
- Working out 3 to 5 times a week = CONSISTENCY.
- Eating healthier or Intermittent Fasting = SELF-DISCLIPLINE.
- Working out even on the days you don’t feel like going, but you decided to push through and do it = DETERMINATION.
- Researching foods and nutrition and planning your workouts to achieve your personal goals (and everything mentioned above) = Knowledge & Hard Work.
What happens when you stop doing all of that and go back to your old habits? You gain the weight back and you’re back to where you started. It’s the same thing. If you’re serious about any goal you have to put in the work. Most of us were not born with the resources that gives us a leg up or a head start. We have to start from the bottom, but we will appreciate it much more because we put in blood, sweat and tears. We kept pushing after every failure. Can you imagine that feeling? Can you imagine going from YEARS of hearing the word No and constantly failing, to ultimately achieving your goals and then some? Close your eyes and picture that moment of you finally being where you’ve always dreamed you could be. I visualize that moment all the time. After the last few years that I’ve had, the amount of appreciation and gratitude that I would feel wouldn’t even be able to be put into words. In that moment you’ll realize that every failure and obstacle was worth it.