So recently Iâve been thinking a lot about the things that we love and the things that we enjoy. The type of things that we may not allow ourselves to enjoy in the present, because we feel like there will be a perfect moment to enjoy it later. Have you ever had a particular wine, fragrance, candle or any perishable item that youâve been saving for special occasions? Iâm definitely guilty of that. If I love something and I know itâs hard to get, or itâs discontinued, I will hold onto it for a LONG time. Iâm so afraid to use it out of fear that once itâs gone thatâs it. Iâll never get it back. Now, I want to change course and rewire my brain. To put it simply, Iâm tired of not enjoying the things that I love in the moment.
I had a couple fragrances that I didnât use because they were discontinued, and I wanted to hold on to them as long as I could. Fast-forward to 10 years later and now the fragrance mainly smells like alcohol. I let it go bad because I was afraid of using it and no longer having it in my collection. The same thing happened with candles. I hit a candle phase when I was working in retail, and I had a fascination with WoodWick candles. I had a pear scented one that was so delicious. That one candle filled my whole place up with a beautiful aroma. When people walked in, they couldnât help but comment on how good it smells. It was my favorite candle. Suddenly, they stopped making that particular candle, so I saved it. I donât know what I was saving it for, but I just didnât want it to be gone for good. Initially, I didnât know that candles expire too, but I found that out after lighting an old Amber Oud candle, I saved previously. So, I wasnât surprised when I lit my Perfect Pear Woodwick candle today, and the aroma was nonexistent. It was so heartbreaking, because I remember when it first went away, I looked for it non-stop for a couple of years. The sad part is, I had over half of this large candle left, that I could have enjoyed years ago. I let fear get in the way. It kind of reminded me of that show where this man saved this extremely expensive vintage bottle of wine for a special occasion, and he never got to enjoy it because he was waiting for the perfect moment. He then passed away before he could. Once it got passed down to someone else to enjoy, they found out it was a bad bottle because he stored it in a boiler room, so he wouldnât have been able to enjoy it anyway.
How many things do we miss out on because weâre waiting for the right moment? What if the right moment never comes? Or what if we enjoy what we love, and then the right moment does come? What is the worst thing that can happen? Do we really think that we canât get another bottle of wine or fragrance that we love just as much? Was the pear candle amazing? Yes! It was a 10 out of 10. Are there other amazing candles out there? Yes! I have new favorites, because guess what? There will always be a new favorite! I know people who donât even finish TV series, because they donât want it to be over. Why is it so hard to close chapters on all the things that weâre really enjoying? Itâs not like its people, theyâre just things, and things are replaceable.
         I give myself a lot of crap for having such a hard time letting go of things, to the point where I feared my attachment issues would turn into some serious hoarding issues. Not in a Sheldon Cooper sort of way, but more so in not letting go of anything that I like or reminds me of a certain time. I have bottles of wine that I hold dear, because I first tried it during my honeymoon or a past vacation in a different country. I have âscent memoriesâ attached to certain fragrances because it brings me back to a time where things were calmer and life was just simpler, and not as hectic as it is now. But even though life is crazy right now, I donât want to keep missing out on the things I love. I want to enjoy them. Forget the perfect moment, and letâs enjoy it all in the NOW. There might never be a perfect moment, so why wait? Life is challenging already; we could at least enjoy the little things. I’ll end this with a quote I saw the other day: “Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect.” đ
Elle Reyđ 