Author: justgottamakeit

Hello and welcome to my complicated world! You can call me Elle. I’m a whimsical, unique, caring, slightly introverted and charismatic, and somewhat animated type of person with versatile interests. There’s so many sides to me you would think I that I was a Gemini. Lol. 🙂 I’m also a former college grad that seems to get a little lost in the world. I’ve been a student majority of my whole life, and I’m finally starting a new chapter. To be honest college was not a breeze for me. It took way over 4 years for me to graduate, and it took over two years before I got my masters. It feels so weird not referring to myself as a student anymore. Now I’m starting a new chapter in life. I started this blog because I know there’s others like me, and I want to let them know that they’re not alone. It’s hard feeling lost at this age, but I am determined to make it. As the saying goes: “I just gotta make it!”

Divorce Diaries (Part 22: Experiencing the first Holidays after Separation)

December 14, 2025

          It’s been almost 6 full months since I’ve been “physically separated” from my soon-to-be ex-husband, and words can’t even begin to describe the emotional roller coaster during this time. It’s so weird, because it’s not the typical emotions that I would’ve expected.  We’ve been mentally and emotionally separated long before we moved out, so … More Divorce Diaries (Part 22: Experiencing the first Holidays after Separation)

Holding onto Hope in the Midst of the Darkness (Reflecting).

October 16, 2025

          Growing up can be hard when your life doesn’t mirror what you’ve always pictured. In my opinion, the best thing about getting older is the wisdom you gain. You realize how valuable it is the older you get. You make smarter decisions, and you can tell when someone is trying to pull the wool … More Holding onto Hope in the Midst of the Darkness (Reflecting).

Divorce Diaries (Part 21: When People Congratulate You for Your Divorce… Thanks??)

September 29, 2025

          There are a lot of things I might not understand. Sometimes I take things as signs, and sometimes I’m just left pondering and second guessing everything. Usually when people find out that you’re getting a divorce they say things like: “I’m so sorry” or “I’m so sorry to hear that.” But not in this … More Divorce Diaries (Part 21: When People Congratulate You for Your Divorce… Thanks??)

Divorce Diaries (Part 20: When the Haunting Dreams Emerge)

August 31, 2025

          I don’t know if most people can relate to this, but maybe you can if you’re a person who tends to dream vivid dreams every night. A lot of people can’t remember their dreams, and it’s very seldom when they mention a dream that they have had, whereas I’ve been the type of person … More Divorce Diaries (Part 20: When the Haunting Dreams Emerge)

Divorce Diaries (Part 19: When 2 months ago feels like Years ago.)

August 21, 2025

          This process has been interesting to say the least. It’s been 7 to 8 weeks since the move and oddly enough, it feels like it was so long ago. You know that weird feeling when you think back to your adolescent relationships and it was so long ago that it almost feels like it … More Divorce Diaries (Part 19: When 2 months ago feels like Years ago.)

Divorce Diaries (Part 18: Feeling Two Things at Once)

August 3, 2025

          Feeling two things at once is an interesting feeling. You go from wanting to keep your distance but wanting to make sure that they’re taking care of themselves. You go from feeling a sense of hostility, to worrying about them. The love doesn’t stop just because you’re feeling resentful, frustrated, or upset, and I … More Divorce Diaries (Part 18: Feeling Two Things at Once)

Divorce Diaries (Part 17: Just Breathe, Shake it Off and Keep Moving Forward)

July 17, 2025

          This week’s post will be fairly short. I was going to skip this week, but since I skipped the first Thursday after the move, I decided to go ahead and give another weekly update. I will say not much has changed since my last post. I’ve still been adjusting, trying to figure out what’s … More Divorce Diaries (Part 17: Just Breathe, Shake it Off and Keep Moving Forward)

Divorced Diaries (Part 16: Adjusting to my New Surroundings After the Move.)

July 10, 2025

          It’s been a rough start since I officially moved out of my home. I knew that I would miss my place and what I’ve grown accustomed to over the years, but it was even the little things that I didn’t think about that made the transition harder. My soon-to-be ex-husband moved out a little … More Divorced Diaries (Part 16: Adjusting to my New Surroundings After the Move.)