Author: justgottamakeit

Hello and welcome to my complicated world! You can call me Elle. I’m a whimsical, unique, caring, slightly introverted and charismatic, and somewhat animated type of person with versatile interests. There’s so many sides to me you would think I that I was a Gemini. Lol. 🙂 I’m also a former college grad that seems to get a little lost in the world. I’ve been a student majority of my whole life, and I’m finally starting a new chapter. To be honest college was not a breeze for me. It took way over 4 years for me to graduate, and it took over two years before I got my masters. It feels so weird not referring to myself as a student anymore. Now I’m starting a new chapter in life. I started this blog because I know there’s others like me, and I want to let them know that they’re not alone. It’s hard feeling lost at this age, but I am determined to make it. As the saying goes: “I just gotta make it!”

Divorce Diaries (Part 6: Separated but Living Under the Same Roof. The Silence is Deafening!)

April 6, 2025

          Being separated is one thing, but being separated under the same four walls is another story. There’s nothing more of a mind-fuck than seeing the shell of the person you once knew walk by you every day. There’s little to no speaking. Most days it’s a 1 to 5 words limit. One day it … More Divorce Diaries (Part 6: Separated but Living Under the Same Roof. The Silence is Deafening!)

Divorce Diaries (Part 5: Why I am Choosing the Harder Path and Not Asking for Alimony… )

April 3, 2025

          I’ve been in my head a lot lately. Throughout this whole divorce process, I’ve been having a challenging time with the whole alimony thing. We didn’t have a prenup, but I’m still not asking for anything. People think I’m crazy and tell me that I should think about what I’ve been through. Even recently, … More Divorce Diaries (Part 5: Why I am Choosing the Harder Path and Not Asking for Alimony… )

Divorce Diaries (Part 4: I took a page out of Ted Mosby’s book)

March 27, 2025

          Years ago, I used to watch How I Met Your Mother on a daily basis. I first discovered that show when the re-runs would come on during the hour between my other two shows. While I was waiting for the New Adventures of Old Christine to come on, I would watch How I Met … More Divorce Diaries (Part 4: I took a page out of Ted Mosby’s book)

Loving Someone Harder Will Not Heal Their Past Trauma!

March 23, 2025

          I don’t know why, but I never realized how much childhood trauma could affect your adult relationships. Our childhood is critical when it comes to our development and who we become as adults. Whether good or bad, our experiences and environment shape and mold us into who we become. If you are someone with … More Loving Someone Harder Will Not Heal Their Past Trauma!

Divorce Diaries (Part 3: What Are You Fighting for, Caroline? )

March 20, 2025

          Can I be completely honest for a second? It is hard, like really hard. It’s tough to confront your own insecurities that come forward in the midst of a divorce. The feelings of feeling broken, inadequate, unlovable and replaceable. It’s like you don’t want to give people a certain power, but when you love … More Divorce Diaries (Part 3: What Are You Fighting for, Caroline? )

Enjoy the little things now! Stop waiting for the right moment.

March 16, 2025

          So recently I’ve been thinking a lot about the things that we love and the things that we enjoy. The type of things that we may not allow ourselves to enjoy in the present, because we feel like there will be a perfect moment to enjoy it later. Have you ever had a particular … More Enjoy the little things now! Stop waiting for the right moment.

Divorce Diaries (Part 1: Letting it set in and mourning what I thought would be my future.)

January 23, 2025

           Well, what can I say? It’s been an emotional month. I actually didn’t expect to feel as many emotions as I have been feeling lately. I felt like I’ve been mourning my marriage a year before any decision was made, and I thought by this time I would be all cried out. Maybe I … More Divorce Diaries (Part 1: Letting it set in and mourning what I thought would be my future.)

Going into the New Year Damaged but Not Destroyed!

December 31, 2024

          Well, there goes another year. 2024 was interesting to say the least. What a challenging time! Now it’s time for a new chapter. The last 3 years have been the hardest 3 years, but now, it’s bamboo season! I’m claiming it! It’s a time for rapid growth and a time for change in the … More Going into the New Year Damaged but Not Destroyed!