Author: justgottamakeit

Hello and welcome to my complicated world! You can call me Elle. I’m a whimsical, unique, caring, slightly introverted and charismatic, and somewhat animated type of person with versatile interests. There’s so many sides to me you would think I that I was a Gemini. Lol. 🙂 I’m also a former college grad that seems to get a little lost in the world. I’ve been a student majority of my whole life, and I’m finally starting a new chapter. To be honest college was not a breeze for me. It took way over 4 years for me to graduate, and it took over two years before I got my masters. It feels so weird not referring to myself as a student anymore. Now I’m starting a new chapter in life. I started this blog because I know there’s others like me, and I want to let them know that they’re not alone. It’s hard feeling lost at this age, but I am determined to make it. As the saying goes: “I just gotta make it!”

Divorce Diaries (Part 7: Trying to Find Energy when I Feel Completely Drained…)

April 17, 2025

          It’s amazing how you go through multiple phases throughout the divorce journey. I feel like I’ve hit the no energy phase, or maybe it’s just a deeper form of depression. Extreme fatigue is a usual symptom of mine when I fall into depression, but I don’t know why it feels different this time. Maybe … More Divorce Diaries (Part 7: Trying to Find Energy when I Feel Completely Drained…)

The Fraudulent Job Ads are Getting Out of Hand! (So Sick of Scammers!)

April 10, 2025

              If you have been looking for remote work in the last couple of years, I’m sure you might be familiar with all of these fake scamming job ads. You apply for a job and then get a suspicious email response. I remember getting one every now and then, but I’ve been getting a ton … More The Fraudulent Job Ads are Getting Out of Hand! (So Sick of Scammers!)

Divorce Diaries (Part 6: Separated but Living Under the Same Roof. The Silence is Deafening!)

April 6, 2025

          Being separated is one thing, but being separated under the same four walls is another story. There’s nothing more of a mind-fuck than seeing the shell of the person you once knew walk by you every day. There’s little to no speaking. Most days it’s a 1 to 5 words limit. One day it … More Divorce Diaries (Part 6: Separated but Living Under the Same Roof. The Silence is Deafening!)

Divorce Diaries (Part 5: Why I am Choosing the Harder Path and Not Asking for Alimony… )

April 3, 2025

          I’ve been in my head a lot lately. Throughout this whole divorce process, I’ve been having a challenging time with the whole alimony thing. We didn’t have a prenup, but I’m still not asking for anything. People think I’m crazy and tell me that I should think about what I’ve been through. Even recently, … More Divorce Diaries (Part 5: Why I am Choosing the Harder Path and Not Asking for Alimony… )

Divorce Diaries (Part 4: I took a page out of Ted Mosby’s book)

March 27, 2025

          Years ago, I used to watch How I Met Your Mother on a daily basis. I first discovered that show when the re-runs would come on during the hour between my other two shows. While I was waiting for the New Adventures of Old Christine to come on, I would watch How I Met … More Divorce Diaries (Part 4: I took a page out of Ted Mosby’s book)

Loving Someone Harder Will Not Heal Their Past Trauma!

March 23, 2025

          I don’t know why, but I never realized how much childhood trauma could affect your adult relationships. Our childhood is critical when it comes to our development and who we become as adults. Whether good or bad, our experiences and environment shape and mold us into who we become. If you are someone with … More Loving Someone Harder Will Not Heal Their Past Trauma!

Divorce Diaries (Part 3: What Are You Fighting for, Caroline? )

March 20, 2025

          Can I be completely honest for a second? It is hard, like really hard. It’s tough to confront your own insecurities that come forward in the midst of a divorce. The feelings of feeling broken, inadequate, unlovable and replaceable. It’s like you don’t want to give people a certain power, but when you love … More Divorce Diaries (Part 3: What Are You Fighting for, Caroline? )

Enjoy the little things now! Stop waiting for the right moment.

March 16, 2025

          So recently I’ve been thinking a lot about the things that we love and the things that we enjoy. The type of things that we may not allow ourselves to enjoy in the present, because we feel like there will be a perfect moment to enjoy it later. Have you ever had a particular … More Enjoy the little things now! Stop waiting for the right moment.